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Youth Ministry by Seth Barnes on 11/20/2009
I got an email from a guy who is going to write an article about how training for short-term missions is inadequate. I replied,"The problem is not that youth leaders don't have access to training, but that they don't value it, have time for it, or have pastoral support for it."
He wrote back: "How do we break the cycle as it applies to youth ministry?"
Well, that question opens a can of worms. Let's see, I guess we need to fix the whole broken model of youth ministry for starters. I threw it out to Michael Hindes and he said you should begin with the the relationship between the youth pastor and the pastor.
Specifically, youth pastors shouldn't take assignments from people who are not spiritual fathers. If pastors would commit to discipling youth pastors, then all kinds of problems would go away. If you're a youth pastor candidate, Hindes (who has been a senior pastor), recommends saying the following to the pastor when he interviews you:
- I need access to you for a couple of hours twice a month outside staff meetings.
- I need to be able to ask you the bigger questions about life and ministry without you being nervous, because one day I want to be a senior pastor too. Also, I want a safe place to process issues from life and marriage and know that your confidential.
- Don't delegate me out to the executive pastor, I didn't buy into his vision, I bought into yours.
- I want to know the four things every employee wants to know: where are we headed, what role do I play, how am I going to be evaluated and how am I doing right now.
- I want consistent feedback, I don't want you to garbage collect. I want to become a man of God like you.
- Here are some things I didn't get in seminary that I may need from you: how do I balance my checkbook and budget? How do I disciple others? How do I do a hospital visit? Would you go on a few with visits with me. Would you help me do a few counseling sessions. And, from your personal experience, teach me about love languages for my wife and I.
- Will you back me publicly even when I mess up? I will welcome private rebukes.
A "little secret" from my past is that for 19 months I was a "youth pastor". It was Tabernacle Church in Norfolk, VA.
It was a great experience and almost killed me because the term "pastor" was really a bucket for whatever anyone needed.
I counseled kids. Coached parents off the cliff. Encouraged. Preached. Went to the hospital. Mopped floors. You name it. :)
Things have changed since then.
At least I hope so.
Missions then was an after thought.
The job of the guy in first place is to disciple the men and women behind him. The end result should be him beginning to live and think about a multigenerational vision.
Which must include one of those brilliant young men or women taking over his job and taking the church to a next level.
Sadly this requires more secured identity than most Senior Pastors have...
Five Things That Youth Pastors Need to Hear But You're Afraid to Tell Them:
http://tinyurl.com/ygpwga8
Until the "corporate" culture popular in many US evangelical churches goes out of style, we will continue to have pastors who operate like corporate CEOs instead of spiritual fathers.
Until the "youth culture" obsession popular in many US evangelical churches goes out of style, we will continue to have youth pastors who act like 15-yr olds instead of "big brother" type mentors.
Head pastors: we need you to be more like a Zen master, not Donald Trump.
Youth pastors: we need you to be more like a wise big brother, not Ashton Kutcher.
In fact maybe the people shouldn't vote at all b/c the church is a Theocracy not a Democracy.
So it's back to a conversation about apostolic leadership with the heart of the Father.
Greg, love to talk more with you about this....
I love to discuss the church!
All but one, maybe two of the sr. pastors I have served w/ or whose church I attended would be all in on this. It has generally been the youth pastor who resisted for whatever reason.
The solution??? Leaders, pastors and boards who demand this as priority & are willing to let some other thing slide.
Wes
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