One of the deep benefits about long-term friendships–ours going on forty years–is that there is the often subtle subtext of comments, nuance of language, interpretation of metaphors–all rolled together with soft righteous rice like a favorite sushi roll in a favorite SOHO restaurant on some tame Thursday night in New York. I get what you are saying. As a Franciscan volunteer at Bethel Colony of Mercy–helping addicts and learning about my own life from their stories–we end up at the same stop at the transformative little trains we all traverse. “Relationships not transactions.” That is the living *gospel way* with God winks from our *Planet Maker* who always shines down incandescent graces–especially in our sleep. Love you brother. Let’s get a date to connect in August. Butch
Learning to Partner Using Jesus’ Methods
“Well, how can I meet your expectations if you don’t clarify them?” He asked.
“I’m giving you broad expectations so that you have latitude to figure out for yourself how best to meet them. I want to partner with you, not give you a set of instructions.”
My subordinate wanted to reduce the task to a transaction. Knowing that our project required innovation and the synergy of good partners, I resisted. I didn’t want someone to paint by numbers.
I sensed an opportunity for partnership and needed help figuring out how to get there. It’s foundational to my call. It’s how this whole thing started. Look at what it says about the first believers:
“The believers shared a common purpose, and every day they spent much of their time together in the Temple area. They also ate together in their homes. They were happy to share their food and ate with joyful hearts.” Acts 2:46
I look at that example. You see three things:
a common purpose
a common table
a common attitude (joy)
I want to live like that. How about you?
Yes, Butch. How else do we get relational context but through spending time, lots of it, with others?
Yass! I wish everyone understood the worth of the fight!
But oh the joy of life in the kingdom with partners you would die for and who would die for you. I’ve got a few and it’s awesome! There’s no better life than that. Jesus called it “abundant life.”
Yes, Rashidat – partners are among God’s greatest gifts in this abundant life he blesses his sons and daughters with. It is joy indeed!
One of my favorite moments in leadership was watching a coworker approach a leader with a difficult, gray-area situation. The leader listened to the situation and also agreed there was no clear right and wrong. Then he said, “This is your decision. I’ll stand with you whichever you decide.”
Being in Gainesville showed me a couple of areas where I’m still very transactional. The beautiful thing is God’s already given me opportunities to step out of that and put into practice what I’m learning.
I love your self-awareness, Katie, and your openness to grow. Beautiful traits in anyone, but especially those of us representing the King of Kings.
Love this ! Very good article…