I had some folks thatI worked with in a church setting who, for whatever reason, DID NOT like me. I mean REALLY didn’t like me. They would be friendly in person, but you could easily see through their facade to the actual feelings underneath. (I almost think that is worse than folks who publically and obviously hate) For a long time, I tried various things to get them not hate me, or at least dislike me less, but of course that didn’t work. They had no interest in me, other than to hate. After a while, I got the realization from God that how they felt about me was not my problem. I did some personal checking in my own life to see if their complaints were valid, found a few that needed some work on my part (working on some of that was almost harder than dealing with people who hate), and found that the rest was simply their own insecurity and jealously and fear coming out. The revelation and process changed how I saw them, and myself, forever. They were not to be disliked, but liked even more than before, because they needed. I can’t say that I ever wanted to have them over for dinner, but I was able to work more effectively with them. It changed me in a positive Godly way, and hopefully what they saw in me seeped in and changed them a little too.
PS When some consequences and misfortune hit them some time later, I was able to respond immediatly (without actual thought) with concern and sadness, and hope that things would work out.It was weird, but in a good way.