It all began with a dream. A dream to become a
nurse. A dream to help people who are suffering with illnesses and
give them a hope for a better future. That was the dream of a girl
working the bars in Patong when she used to live with her family right
outside of Bangkok.
But then reality set it that she was going to be
the one to provide for her family, she would be the one to send her
sisters to university for a good education, that her own parents would
send her 12 hours away to sell herself in order to provide. And this
girl, being selfless, turned her back on her dreams to live a life of
instant gratification for men and lifelong torment for her. Does she
want this life? Absolutely not!
This is the woman we have been building a relationship with. She is 22
years old and works every night in the Bars. Her sense of humor lights
up the room and her joyful spirit is an inspiration. People naturally
flock to her and want to be around her. I know that is how we have
felt about her! So day after day of going to the bar to see her we
asked her what a perfect day would look like for her. She told us
lunch, a movie, and then karaoke. We told her we would love to do that
with her and we will take her out to do that. She agreed!
New Year’s Eve day was going to be our day to show her a good time outside of the
bar. A day to feel human again and free.
wrote on her hand before we left the bar that night to meet us at 11am
back at the bar. So yesterday we got there at 11am like we said we
would. 11:20 rolls around and no show, a thread of disappointment ran
through us but we did not lose hope. We decided to call her, no
answer. 10 minutes later the phone rang… it was her! She said she
got held up with a customer but was on her way and wanted to see us! We couldn’t help but jump for joy, while at the same time our hearts broke.
Broke for what she has to be put through everyday because her family
sent her to do this thing.
Around noon she came down the street. She
saw us and had a huge smile on her face. We asked her how she was
doing? She told us she was tired, especially since she just spent the
last week in the hospital with dengue fever. But we were determined to
have a good day and spend quality time with her. The day started with
some authentic Thai lunch at her favorite place in Patong. After we
went to the mall and were going to see a movie. She was supposed to
clean the bar at 2 and she told us she would call her boss to see if
she didn’t have to come in.
That way she could spend the day with
us. He told her no, that she had to come clean, especially since her
customer didn’t keep her as long as the rest of the girls from the
bar. Again disappointment ran through, but still a sense that God had
His hand all over her and her life. We walked her back to the bar,
gave her a hug, and see looked at us with longing. Longing
to stay and just feel alive, feel as if she doesn’t belong to a man for
a price, rather a human being who is truly worthy of love, time, and
We told her we would come back to the bar tonight and see her then. She agree and off we went.
Last night we went back to the bar. We all got really excited
to see each other. We ordered our Cokes and just chatted with her for
a while. I asked her what do I have to do so you don’t have to be here
tonight, so that you can just have fun and relax. She said she didn’t
know… so I asked her if I could buy her for the night, especially
with it being New Year’s and she could come down to the beach with us to
She said, sure! I just would have to pay the “bar fine” as
payment for taking their her away, but at this point it is just money.
Her life is worth so much more then that! I just desire for her to
keep feeling human and not let this day end with her at the bar. She
willingly left with us! SHE LEFT WITH US TONIGHT AND WALKED OUT OF THE BAR
We walked down to Starbucks and met up with our whole group. We all
walked down to the beach. Hundreds of lanterns and fireworks were in
the air! It was beautiful and to top it off she was with us! New Years
celebration was full of joy.
She got to spend New Years having fun
outside of the bar, and have an awesome time. A night of feeling real
and enjoying life. Life more full then the empty life at the bar.
Life started with a dream and tonight Alison asked her to dream again.
Alison asked her for her New Years wish…
She replied, “A new life…”
So, if you want to help, let me know. It costs so little to make a day like this happen. Why not give a bar girl her dream today?