Suicide and Not Dying With Regrets
We are left to wonder, “What can I learn from the suffering of someone like Hunter?” I turn to someone who has become an expert at helping people to die well. Palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware. She has cared for thousands of patients. She shares the most common regrets her patients expressed in their final weeks.
1. Living true to yourself
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
2. Express your feelings
“I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
3. Keep Your Friends
“I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
4. Choose Happiness
“I wish that I had let myself be happier.”
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
Used with permission from https://bronnieware.com/
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Thanks,I have read your advice,and I will keep up to that.
Powerful. Motivating. Grateful.
Hello,🙋♀️ A local Cape Cod Hospital caused my 61 year old husband to decline and literally ended his life. He was not injured in a fall a few hours before hospitalization and it was due to electrolytes that were off and infection. The CCH treated him for 15 days (too long), after several plus crazy discharge delays and all treatments were stopped, I had signed him out AMA Discharge. However hospital staff would not let him go home, for several Nurses brought him in a wheelchair to the car, but never attempted to put him into the car. Instead they grabbed him after standing him up, forced him onto the wheelchair, and rushed my spouse back into the CCH hospital. As I was attempting to report the Cape Cod Hospital, Hyannis, MA., for keeping him against both of our Wills, etc., they stopped all his oral food & water, putting him into Acoma, and they took him off IVs after I was called and told he could go home Tuesday after the holiday, and they instead ended his life! Tommy Long had no oral food or water for three days, denied comfort care measures of an oral sponge, and his IVs were taken off after hospital denied fluids for three days, and amid I said No to that twice! I have tried to report this negative hospital activities, but everyone is okay with hospital staff deciding to keep patients amid they were signed out, with foul play via Nurses amid AMA Discharge Document, causing a patient to decline by denying him all oral food & water for days (which basically everyone knows leads to death), taking him off IVs (only fluids in his body and he was not even on TPN food IV nutrition), and a Nurse just take IVs out as okay, and put Morphine in (which I said no to), and end a man’s life! He was already treated for what brought him to the CCH and we desperately wanted him to go home, which is two blocks away from the hospital!
Many adults think this is okay- keeping a Patient as if a prisoner, ignoring AMA Discharge Documents and not putting a discharged Patient in the wife’s car, instead bringing Patient into the hospital denying all food, water, comfort care measures, then without consent taking off IVs (which should not have been taken off then) and CCH hospital staff is playing God as to when and how people die! I have reported this, sought an investigation, and I am left alone without my 61 year old spouse, and no justice instead. 🙏🙏
This is going on in the CVH hospital and I hear in other hospitals. Your loved one can be made to die months-to-years earlier because of a stranger who works in a hospital decides it is okay to make your loved one die!!!
The Bible says in Deutoronomy To Not Kill! Exodus 23:25 says, “If you worship the Lord your God he will bless your food & water, …” Tommy & I prayed together daily and were church goers/worshippers, etc. too!
Please stop hospitalsftom getting away with murdering people- this is passed off as the new hospice care, and people who are not even hospice patients, are induced into premature death!
Tricia Kilmartin-Long
TriciaKilmartin1@hotmail.com