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The dying room

We were sitting with Dave S. in downtown Hong Kong last week when Dave said something so unsettling I had to stop him and ask him for an explanation. “When we adopted our daughter from one of the thousands of orphanages in C—- (a large Asian country), she was one of the oldest orphans to co…
By Seth Barnes
By Seth Barnes

We were sitting with Dave S. in downtown
Hong Kong last week when Dave said something so unsettling I had to stop him
and ask him for an explanation.

“When we adopted our daughter from one of the thousands of
orphanages in C—- (a large Asian country), she was one of the oldest orphans to come out.

“When I asked how many of them graduate out as
teenagers they told me, none do. They
told me, ‘That’s why we have a dying room.'”

A dying room – a
room where love and nutrition-starved orphans go to end their days.

The words just landed in my spirit with a
thud. Later I checked the internet and found an expose (no longer on line) showing the dying rooms of C—- – 21 million babies born a year and the unwanted have to die somewhere.

In a world so full of opportunity and resources, in a faith
so filled with hope and love, how is it that dying rooms exist? How is it that in America
a couple can spend $30,000 trying to adopt a child when orphans in C—-
are sent to a room to die?

How is it
that we preoccupy ourselves in America
with lowering our golf handicaps when situations like this exist?

When we pray “Thy kingdom come,” I think one of the ways God
responds is, “Help get rid of the need for dying rooms.” We can adopt, we can go, and we can give. We don’t have to live out our days turning a blind eye to this kind of pain.

Comments (14)

  • I did a Google Search on …dying r… and before I could type another letter, one of the autofill choices was …dying room china…

    How can this possibly be true?

  • Amen and amen! We can all go, give and when led to, adopt, but it is not only America who live in the lap and blinkers of luxury and cannot see even though they are looking! Father God, in Jesus name, lead us to those who need us the most and to those who we can empower with our earthly wealth to bring about change! Amen!

  • i really wanna help these babies from getting killed when i saw this video i wanted to cry if any one wants to help me help these babies then please please email me at [email protected] please i really want to help

  • I want to adopt one or two of these babies…I need some help figuring out how to do it….all the red tape and all…any help would be greatly appreciated…just email me…I am 47 and already have 3 adult sons married and on their own…I would treasure a baby girl at this time in my life…thankyou in advance for any help..

  • I think the documentary is quite old. It got a lot of attention and places were forced to change. You should also not go rescue them for “god” but do it out of the goodness of your own heart.

    You can help those who wll never be adopted out because they are too old or disabled by donating to orgaizations such as halfthesky.org

  • This documentary was produced in 1995 and it forced a lot of change to happen in China. It is indeed tempting to believe that adopting a child is the answer but in fact it does very little to help the situation only by adopting measures to force the Chinese government to change its orphan-producing legislations can one have a lasting impact for the well-being of chinese children. Human rights are a matter that need to be attended by much bigger means than adopting one child at a time (for a country that represents such a huge part of the global population, saving one child’s life is almost inconsequential)
    I am not questionning the legitimity of adoption, but I think it should not serve as a means to clear one’s conscience into thinking that “I’ve done what I could”. Long term change depends on people supporting Human Rights organizations, which in turn have a bigger power of action.

  • dear marie,

    one child’s life?
    i certainly hope you are not a mother.

    Supporting human rights organizations is important, i agree. but its amazing to have to point out that there are, um, more than a few ways of attacking a problem. yeah, those families that adopt children, shame on them for wanting to make a difference to just one. what a selfish thing. would YOU like to be the one to tell them they are wasting their time? maybe you could prepare some literature to distribute to these families, even, about whichever Human Rights organizations you’d prefer for them to spend their time and money on, rather than on their new child? by your personal initiative to enlighten us as to EXACTLY how we should ALL be spending our efforts, you’ve made it clear that this the Right Way. be sure to give yourself a big pat on the back for doing such a vastly more important thing than giving a home to an orphaned child.

  • My husband was killed in an accident in August of 1994. One of many of my depressed days lead me to watch late TV. I happened to see a film titled The Dying Rooms” Watching this changed my life forever thinking about my own loss I suddenly realized that I needed to change my focus and adopt a child from this terrible situation that I happened upon on TV. My wish came true and two children later I never regret seeing this emotional film. It was hard to watch But the message was loud and clear for me. Thank you for making this film

  • I never saw the film, but I read about the Dying Rooms.
    Hopefully these sick monsters, who are taking part on this baby holocaust will be punished…

  • I don’t know what China’s dying room has to do with making harsh laws like the Dominick Calhoun law:

    Btw.. I think people should worry about their own backyards, Namely, the orphans and poor kids running around here in the United States. before worrying about China’s children.

    I have a few fatherless and motherless nephews and nieces (!) Why don’t people help THEM out. (?)

    I’m just saying. :/

  • Are your nieces and nephews left to die in their own refuse, with nobody to comfort them, feed them, love them? Yes, I’m sure they need help, but we have programs for that here. We have social services for our needy children. It takes ACTIVISM to get help to these children in countries like China. A reality check may be in order. God loves all children, regardless of where they live.

  • Christine – good point.


    Thanks for commenting. If you’ll give me more info about your nephews and nieces, we’d be happy to try and help.

  • I think these videos are so sad, i just wish that they had included how you can do your part to help or a specific charity that helps to put a stop to this unbearable cruelty. It literally ripped my heart out to watch the poor children, souless, joyless from lack of anything! These children should be laughing that laugh that only a child can laugh. God bless all the children and may a miricle turn all this evil selfishness around! Any one who knows an organisation to help against these room should put it on posts like this so people like me can see them and donate/help what ever it takes 🙁 God bless these childrens souls!

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