Enabling mediocrity and rooting for our kids… seems like a delicate balance. We go all over the world sending the message that you do not have to despair, there is hope… but we do not cheer our own kids on? I’m sure this is not what you mean to say. Hebrews 3: 13 is one of my life verses. “But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you ay be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.” Parenting is about being an example of God to our kids… prototype if you will. False praise is detrimental… but we must NEVER forget the power of parents in the life of their children. Giving our kids blessing is a theme throughout the Bible. NOTHING is ever so important that we do not have time to be involved in our kids lives speaking truth to them and believing in them! I’ve seen too many ministry kids who are over achievers… but dead in the inside because they do not have a healthy sense of just “being”, enjoying life, and being content with the life God has given them. I think we need to be careful that we do not play God and assume we know when is the time for our kids next challenge. Growing up is ultimately when our kids transfer that parent figure to God… I want to be a truthful example (parent) of what it means to be a child of the KING. When a child tries with all their heart and still cannot achieve an “A,” how awesome to come home to a family that is encouraging and believing! Adults who have not experienced comfort and encouragement and nurture from their parents will suffer till they are able to understand that is NOT the way God planned it and HE is there ALL the time speaking truth and encouragement to HIS children. All kinds of unhealthy “white collar” habits (addictions) come from this insatiable hunger to fell loved and approved. W
We MUST remember that either extreme will damage our kids!