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What kind of home atmosphere will you be walking into this Christmas? What kinds of strategies will help you enjoy one another and make a holiday season to remember?
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Thank you, Seth. You’ve articulated well a source of frustration and pain for my wife and I as we make plans to join my family during different holidays and other family events. Which is on to say that the pain is between my wife and I, but between us (primarily me) and the rest of my family. To add to your list, what do you do when a)your siblings and/or guests aren’t believers, and don’t want to be, and b)your hosts don’t want to lead or rock the boat spiritually (or otherwise)? These are some of our other issues, and make the deeper ones difficult to get to. Thank you for reminding me that I’m not alone in these struggles, and there are ideas and Biblical ways of dealing with them. I just have to have the courage to step into the storm.
A great article, Seth. Reading this, I realize how much I take for granted the family that I was born into and the one I married into. But I also feel better prepared to know how to pray for my friends who are in this situation. I imagine how rough it can be, and your words I think will be an encouragement to many.
You’re welcome, Michelle and Paul. I pray it goes well for you and your families this Christmas.
We grew up in a Jewish home in the 1960’s and did not celebrate Christmas. We knew nothing of the difference between Gentiles and Christians. In our ignorance we were mistaken to believe that if a person was not Jewish then they were a Christian. I came to know Jesus as my Messiah at age 22, celebrated the holiday for a few years enjoying the fun and beauty, acknowledging that God did indeed send his promised son, Messiah Yeshua, to the world. Fortunately my husband and children did not develop a tradition of giving big gifts so we have no expectations and do not support the commercialism of Christmas. All the hype of the holiday takes people’s focus off Jesus and what He came for. Our seasonal celebrations consist of a mixture of Chanukah and Christmas, whatever honors Jesus, the Light of the World.
The admission of being dysfunctional is a great 1st step in being able to change. I could really relate to your comments. The eyeopener for me was a few years ago…seeing myself in a home video on Christmas morning with an exasperated look on my face. It made me realize how much I was letting the conditions around me control me.
Now for this year…I got up at 7:30 made coffee sat in our sun room reading a book and watched the sunrise turn the mountains pink. I was able to totally relax and wait for everyone to get up…11:00am!!! We started the festivities with communion. We then opened gifts. Steve is not only very slow about opening his gifts, he manipulates the situation so he gets to open the last gift. It used to be frustrating. This year I enjoyed every minute of the experience. It’s great to have him back.
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