Gen Z Needs To Be Trusted More


My generation is miserable. Gen Z, those of us born after 1997, are the saddest, loneliest, and most mentally fragile age group to date, cursed with rising rates of anxiety, depression, and suicide. How can that be? How can a generation with everything feel so desperately unhappy?
By almost every metric, human life is dramatically better today than it ever has been. The number of people living in extreme poverty has fallen from around 90 percent in 1820 to just 10 percent in 2015, while rates of illiteracy, mortality, and battle deaths are also in rapid decline. For the most part, Gen Z are heirs to an immense fortune: a utopian world of instant gratification and technological dynamism. In theory, this should be the age of happiness.
And yet, misery abounds. In the United States, 54 percent of Gen Z report anxiety and nervousness, according to researchers at the American Psychological Association…..for Gen Z women in particular, suicide rates have risen a staggering 87 percent since 2007.
No pain, no gain
Why is this? Pain is not only needed for growth, it’s also necessary to find meaning and purpose. Sebastian Junger noted that “humans don’t mind hardship, in fact they thrive on it. What they mind is not feeling necessary. Modern society has perfected the art of making people not feel necessary.”
Take away a person’s sense of purpose and they become anxious. So Gen Z is conflicted, looking for purpose, but still lacking the resilience needed to go through the pain we humans need to find it. Prioritize comfort and remove struggle and you deprive people of an essential part of a meaningful life.
The hero generation
The good news is that earlier generations have gone through a similar phase and come out OK. They just needed a cause that required them to dive into pain. For example, the flappers of the 20’s went through the Great Depression and fought World War 2, becoming what we now refer to as “The Greatest Generation.”
The book, The Fourth Turning is Here, describes Gen Z’s as “The Hero Generation” that hasn’t found its cause yet. The author, Neil Howe, makes the case that we are already moving toward the crisis that will give Gen Z the purpose they are missing in their lives.
Who knows what that crisis will be – another war, economic depression, or epidemic? When it comes, our existence as a society will be threatened and we will be forced to embrace pain. Embracing the cause, young people will learn resilience and begin to grow – they will find the purpose they’ve been missing.
As Frieda India says, “My message for my generation is to dare to switch off Netflix, abandon your excuses, and bear the unbearable. It may not be what we want to hear, but it may be just what a miserable generation needs.”
I don’t know about you, but these days, we need a few heroes ready to take on the world’s biggest problems. I have seen that Gen Z is both practical, capable and eager to make a difference. I believe that they will.
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Seth –
Great commentary, consistent with the “press in” encouraging words I’ve heard you speak often. Coaching Gap Years gives us much insight to the high levels of anxiety in Gen Zs. At the same time, see the HOPE and talent in them when the discomfort, pain, and suffering comes. They are incredibly resourceful when they choose “press in”. The future is hard, but so GOOD.
Amen, Andy. Thanks for all you do to help prepare them. You and Ellen are amazing coaches.
‘Alone-ness’ and ‘wandering’ are a part of many, perhaps most in Gen Z. But not all.
There are those Gen Z-ers who have begun living more integrated Christ-centered lives than we Boomers did at their age. There are those who believe what Jesus said in John 12:24-26 about a grain of wheat and live accordingly.
These are the ones whom Jesus is using as He keeps HIs promise to build His body and advance His kingdom in the face of all opposition. These are the ones who inspire as I remember their faces or hear their voices or read their thoughts.
That’s right, Brian. There is a remnant that is already making a difference.