One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned this year is how many times, I don’t need to say anything. Our (I’ll just own my actions, and say MY) disposition is helping someone process by asking questions or volunteering an empathetic story.
But there’s a lot to be said for simply holding space for someone. Not saying anything, other than, “I’m here.” Just being there – physically, sitting with them; or emotionally, by remaining available and present to the person.
Granted, that’s probably shallow advice when a friend is texting you in a literal hurricane – but what if it’s less about what we can “do” or “say”, and more about showing up, and shouldering the burden alongside them?