The importance of traditions
neighborhood block party It usually seemed to be snowing and that made
the hot chocolate seem that much more delicious. The highlight was when
Santa Claus would come riding up on a fire engine.
I’m a believer in family traditions, so I wanted to do something similar for our neighborhood when our kids were
young. Never mind that we lived in Florida. All we needed was the
people, a Santa Clause and a firetruck.
I went to the local mall and asked the Santa Clause there if he’d come
out to our neighborhood. He agreed. Then I went to the fire dept and
after hearing my story, they agreed to let their firetruck be a stand-in
for Santa’s sleigh.
to the fire station. We all got on the truck and then drove to our
neighborhood, arriving to cheers from the kids. When you’re a kid, things like that seem more wonderful than they do to adults.
But even as adults, something in us yearns for traditions. The music, the smells, the lights all link us back to warm memories. I had two aunts who used the pecans growing in trees in their yard to make fruitcakes. Every Christmas, their fruitcake arrived in the mail. I didn’t understand what all the fuss was about – nobody likes candied fruit normally, so how does blending them into a cake change things?
On the one hand, traditions are odd. Why would we want to do something over and over again? There’s no surprise or originality in them, so why bother? In the end, I came up with five reasons why we love traditions:
- Things that were good will be repeated. If a tradition aroused great memories before, then it has the power to help you conjure up the memories again. We all love to reminisce on occasion. Traditions facilitate that practice of remembering.
- They give us context. They show us the bigger picture. We aren’t the first people to do this and others who follow us will continue.
- Traditions are embedded in our collective memory. We may not remember all the nuance, but those responsible for them have the details in their recipes, costumes, and written notes.
- They reinforce our sense of belonging. We are connected to others around us and to those who have preceded us.
- They give us roles. We all want to know where we fit in the group. What is our job? Traditions give us something to do, even if it’s only to appreciate the work others have done.
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Sunday is a special day. It is a day where our entire family, that is 10 grand children, our three children and all three of their spouses, plus aunt Darlene and occasionally her daughter and her boyfriend come to our house for dinner, EVERY WEEK!,almost 20 people come together to share their week with the family and bind as a faith family. My wife and I started this, i think maybe 10 years ago as our family seemed large and fragmented. One rule…no TV and it works, we share, we bind and we love….If you or Karen are ever in Birmingham come and grab a plate, can’t beat the price….LOL Frank III
We are re-awakening this year the Christmas tradition of making “gingerbread” houses (really out of graham crackers). Just being creative and together is fun and good!
A Nordic Christmas tradition in the WI/MN area is the most God-awful dish you have ever tasted. No matter how amazing grandma’s cooking is, nothing can be done for Lutefisk. It is a stock fish that has been preserved in lye, and when done, has a strong pungent odor and gelatinous texture- traditionally slathered in butter to mask the taste, yet to no avail. I haven’t met one person who enjoys it purely for the taste, yet somehow, at least among the older generations, people manage to suck it down in the name of tradition.
My dad and I make a lot of Christmas candy. It started when I made it for teachers, but we still do it.