Astounding piece… and right on target… I’m sharing this with people I love today… and reading it again for myself… thank you… God bless…
We all need to grieve
A few days ago I went to the window of my 38th floor hotel room in New York and looked down on the site where the twin towers once stood. The man who helped with our luggage was at work on September 11, 2001 but he was reluctant to talk about his memories of that fateful day. So many people lost their lives. So many survivors needed to start over.
How do we help ourselves or others when there is a need to begin again, following a tragedy, major loss or failure? In recent weeks I’ve discussed this informally with three friends who have been released from high profile jobs. All recognize the need to grieve. Each has struggled with anger, discouragement, disappointment, sadness and anxiety. These people know that things may get worse before they get better. They recognize that life will never be like it was before. But they’re finding ways to recover and rebound. Here are a few:
Embrace the feelings. Admit the pain. Give yourself permission to grieve.
Don’t rush the process. Few people bounce back. Recovery and renewal are more like steady growth with periodic setbacks.
Keep in contact with others who are supportive but who can gently and sensitively push you forward.
Don’t dwell on injustice, revenge, or on things beyond your influence or control. Fantasies about getting even only hurt the fantasy-maker and slow the recovery process.
Get exercise, even when you don’t feel like it. Exercise can help your body and brain resist illness, think more clearly, fight depression, and have a more positive attitude.
Keep learning. This is something that we can control. It has been suggested that “use it or lose it” applies to every part of your body, mind, and social life.
Keep God in the picture. Communicate with him regularly, even if you doubt his presence or his awareness of your circumstances.
Let yourself dream about what can be. Keeping visions alive can help us all grow beyond the past and move forward to a positive future.
More thoughts on grieving at this blog. And feel free to contact me – the blog ministers who work with me will be happy to help you pray through whatever hard spot you find yourself in.
I’ve always been amazed at the ammount of joy I see in people who live in poverty. They have much greif, but some have equal joy. It is as if the depths of their grief have expanded their capacity for joy. It’s inspiring.