Dear Daddy Seth,
I am blessed this wonderful article
Dear Daddy,Our culture is very simple but we do all these things.
What is your family culture?
- Open to anybody – it’s a big extended family.
- Everybody brings food.
- Everybody helps do something.
- Fun experiments – we cooked turkey in the ground.
- Prayer to start – check out my facebook clip.
- Laughter and stories throughout.
- Intergenerational fun – dancing and games.
What is your family culture? Is it something you inherited? Are there parts of it you would change? Which parts?
Dear Daddy Seth,
Oh my. I think I shuddered when I read the question you posed about whether the culture I was raised in needed to be the culture I passed on.
I hope not is right. In fact, a resounding no is my answer, allbeit a bit later in life than I may wish…but better late than never.
I am redefining service and love. Standing firm in truth. Parenting as God parents, and hopefully emulating Jesus. None of this was present in my family of origin, yet I love my parents dearly…but don’t agree with many of the choices they made in parenting me. But I don’t need to make the same choices.
Your gathering looks wonderful.
May peace and grace abound…
In answer to your question: I certainly hope not!
I know not, in fact.
My family of origin was built on one, BIG lie.
Which is why I became the little girl who leads with truth.
When your whole childhood is a lie, nothing becomes more important to you than the truth!
My family of origin was built on love that wasn’t love at all. And seldom expressed as God expresses love.
Which is why I became the little girl who “loved” inordinately in order to get the love she never had.
Which is why I became the mother who valued family above anything on this earth and one who loved her children abundantly, without reserve, unconditionally and demonstrably.
Everything my family was not I sought to counter in the family God allowed me to create with my husband and children.
You probably weren’t angling for this when you posed your question…but this is what I thought of when I read it.
Your family looks wonderful and nurturing and healthy and yes, I’m not afraid to say, the human part of me is a bit jealous.
But, I know that God has us all…right where we should be at this moment.
And, we are all part of His great, nurturing family.
When family departs…when family is broken…when family is dispersed…or even estranged (though that’s not my issue), we have to come back to the truth that God loves us, we are part of His family, and HE will never leave us or forsake us.
Happy Holidays, Barnes family!