I appreciate the counsel you conveyed to your friend. I concur whole-heartedly. I too was dismissed from a ministry position I held for 12 years. In that time I served as youth pastor, worship pastor, and then youth pastor again. I fancied myself an “armor bearer” and, in many ways functioned as an associate pastor,as well. My wife, children, and I grew angry and then bitter and then critical during this difficult time. Several times we prayed, “LORD, release us so we can go somewhere else.” The LORD’s response was a resounding, “NO! be faithful to Me…I have a purpose.” Four more years my family and I continued to attend, and mend, and heal, and forgive… In hindsight, my wife and I both know that, in our case, healing could have taken place no where else and in no other way. Ultimately, the whole scenario was a wake up call for me as God revealed to me how full of pride and arrogant I had become. The four years after my dismissal was a wilderness journey and a time of pruning and purging…and it continues today. The process has taught me some things. One thing is that what the devil uses for my detriment, God uses for my development. Another is that faith in God knows that He is doing SOMETHING even without knowing what that something is. Before I was conceived, God had a plan for my life…His mind was made up about me. And nothing, not even my own pride or ignorance can change Father’s mind about me. God is the ultimate “behind the scenes organizer and orchestrator” and He tirelessly works all things together for our good and for His glory. Father God uses life to realign the saints and get them back on track. It’s all according to whether or not we will deny and submit. Obedience is the key. I have learned (and continue to learn) many other lessons. These are the ones that pop to the forefront at the moment. Perhaps this will be helpful to others.
Peace and blessings…